When I hear the word congruency, I always think of a pair of binoculars. Adjusting the focus, you are striving for images to come into alignment. That’s congruence.
There is your public persona and your private persona. How’s the alignment?
Find your true self and live consistently from that.
This is a line from Dr. Brene’ Brown book The Gift of Imperfection. She recommends the goal of NOT being perfect. It wastes a lot of energy, after all. Anyone you think who is perfect, just know its an illusion. We are all flawed in some way. Get used to it.