Neuroscience is teaching us how this one principle changes so much about how things process in our mind.
“I can’t” is resignation, end of story, turn off the dialogue.
The HUGE difference that “How can I?” makes is, it turns on our imagination, allows for possibilities, and sets up an anticipated outcome! Makes us curious? It actually sends an inquiry to our sub-conscious mind to solve it for us. Then makes us aware of things that could “be the answer.”
I think it engages our spirit, too.